The reason that Raven wanted me to write this is because after we talked it through, she felt that this was something people needed to hear. I am a Christian. I believe that God looks at the heart more than the behavior. I think that there is a huge difference between hosting and hospitality. Hospitality has a heart. I believe that God is more pleased with someone who pours a glass of wine in a home where it is frowned upon (if you read the same Bible as me it clearly isn't sinful) because it is what the guest is wanting, then someone who opens their home with a smirk because (due to an unexpected hardship) someone is in need of help. Thanksgiving is the ultimate opportunity for others to see what you value. It is an intimate look into each others lives and traditions. When you share that meal I think it is important to share it all... but if the rules and traditions are more important to you than the people they will not feel you shared anything. God looks at the heart. I believe that so much could have been achieved by showing the heart of hospitality and not the art of hospitality.
Hospitality is offering what you have to someone else with joy and without expectation. The art of entertaining is to further your own reputation and achieve accolades. Hospitality can even leave you feeling like you gave something... because you did. The art of entertaining leaves you feeling better about yourself... well at least until you read something like this.